This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Terry C. Coughlin Jr. who was born in New York on May 10, 1962 
and passed away on August 06, 2005 at the age of 43.  
No one will ever know why he choose to take his life.  He will be missed and loved by his wife, Children, family, co- workers and close friends both near and far.
~We will  always remember his wit, charm, gentle and giving spirit forever~ 

    
Tears are only Memories, Overflowing from our Heart ! 

"I though of you with love today but that is nothing new,
I though about you yesterday and the day before that too.
I think of you in silence I often speak your name, all I have are memories and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake with which I'll never part
God has you in his keeping I have you in my heart."

Terry C. Coughlin, Jr., 43, of Endicott, died Saturday, August 6, 2005. He was predeceased by his mother, Lorraine M. (Roma) Coughlin in 1992. He is survived by his wife, Deborah A. Duffek-Coughlin, Endicott; a devoted father to Jeffrey Edward and Erin Michelle Coughlin; his father, Terry C. Coughlin, Sr., Endicott; a sister and brother-in-law, Anne and Stan Romanowski, Endwell; two brothers and sisters-in-law, Kevin and Mary Coughlin, Elmira, N.Y., and Robert and Coleen Coughlin, York, Maine; his father-in-law and mother-in-law, Stephen and Patricia (Makowski) Duffek, Endicott; nieces and nephews, Kelsey and Alec Romanowski, Jack Coughlin, Olivia and Thomas Coughlin, and Stephen Peter and Elizabeth Marie Walsh; sister-in-law and brother-in-law, Tamara and Dennis Walsh; also several cousins, aunts, and uncles. He was a member of Our Lady of Good Counsel Church, Endicott. Terry was a Senior Engineer and Scientist for IBM Corp., a graduate of BCC, Rochester Institute of Technology and Syracuse University. Throughout his seventeen years with IBM, Terry made many contributions, including ten patents and was a leader in technology advancement. He was also a member of the BPOE Elks Lodge #1977, Endicott. Terry was an avid outdoorsman, whose many activities included hunting, archery, fishing, gardening, wine making and coaching girls' basketball. He was a loving husband, father, son and brother and will be sadly missed by everyone who's lives he touched.
Funeral Services will be held Thursday, 9:30 a.m., from the Allen Memorial Home, 511-513 East Main Street, Endicott, followed by a Funeral Mass at Our Lady of Good Counsel Church at 10 am. Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery, Johnson City. The family will receive friends at the Allen Memorial Home Wednesday evening from 5-8 p.m. In lieu of flowers, expressions of sympathy in his memory may be made to the National Wildlife Federation, 11100 Wildlife Center Drive, Reston, Virginia 20190.

T ravel and lived life to its fullest
E very minute of his life was used for planning
R eally loved the out doors 
R eady and willing to try anything once maybe twice if he liked it
Y earned to go hunting all the time

C ooked up a storm in the kitchen
O n thinking mode all the time.
U sed his dry sense of humor to help you make it through anything
G reat handyman loved doing projects, just a jack of all trades
H ad unconditional love for all of his family
L augh and smiled all the time
I ntelligent
N ever complained

Terry's Patent storm web site:

http://www.patentstorm.us/inventors/Terry_C__Coughlin,_Jr_-1113233.html

Web site for Suicide:
http://www.suicidology.org/associations/1045/files/SOS_handbook.pdf 

Suicide Myths and Realities 
Myth #1: 
Those who talk about suicide are “all talk” and won’t complete suicide.
Reality: Talking about suicide is a warning sign and many who talk about it do complete suicide. 
Myth #2:
Those who have attempted suicide really wanted to die.
Reality: Suicidal people only want to be pain-free and would go on if their pain could be ended. 
Myth #3:
Asking someone if they are thinking about suicide will only give them “ideas”.
Reality: You can often only be sure by asking and this shows that you care. 
Myth #4:
Those who complete suicide are often psychotic.
Reality: Many may have had symptoms of mental illness, but most were in touch with reality. 
Myth #5:
Most suicides occur with little or no warning.
Reality: Most people mention what they are feeling and what’s drawing them toward suicide. 
Myth #6:
Non-fatal acts are only attention-getting behaviors or only attempts to be manipulative.
Reality: For some people, suicidal behaviors are serious invitations to others to help them. 

National Hopeline Network
1 (800) suicide / 1 (800) 784-2433

National Suicide Hotline
Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1 (800) 273- TALK or  1 (800) 273-8255

 To my husband Terry C. Coughlin Jr. 
on his 44th birthday in heaven
I have a responsibility to my husband that I love…
To be loving, patient, considerate and kind; to be loyal, respectful and honest; to be appreciative, encouraging and comforting to share myself and care for myself to be the best possible “Me”.
But:
I am not responsible for him…
Not for his achievements, successes or triumphs;
Not for his joy, gratification or fulfillment; not for his defeats, failures or disappointments; not for his thoughts, choices or past mistakes.
For had I have responsible, this death would have never have occurred.
Missing you today on your Birthday and Everyday!
Your loving Wife
Deborah 
~5/10/2006~

In loving memory of Terry C. Coughlin Jr.
5/10/1962 to 8/06/2005 
We stop and remember, honor and miss you
 after one year of leaving us.
It seems like it was just yesterday when you were here.
Our family, friends, and co-workers feel a void as well, 
there’s just no replacing you.
So just for today, we stop and think of you, each in our own special way. How you played a special part in our lives, then God took you away. I know our family and friends would all concur, that we miss your friendly Manner, great smile, wonderful spirit and wisdom most of all.
Terry, you are sadly missed forever by your wife, your family, friends and co-workers.
Family and friends of the Duffek's

8/6/2006

Terry C. Coughlin Jr.
05/10/1962 to 08/06/2005
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal. We stop and think of you on your birthday. Missing you and thinking of you today and always.
Deborah 05/10/07